ode.
give me words.
so fragile �
mere ink on carbon-based paper.
though silence is golden, like the words
drip drip dripping from the lips of a honey-tongued orator
in a picture in a history book.
but he�s long gone too, and all that remains are his words.
what have you got to say to me?
paper.
you know nothing, speak nothing.
yet this two-dimensional urn holds the potent ashes of ancient wordsmiths long gone to dust.
they�re dead now, but their words live on.
all that�s left is what they left.
give me poetry or give me death.
i could crumple you in one hand without even trying.
i know better, of course.
silver-cold glimmers run down my arms.
i swallow words, gulp them down like a cat drowning in cream.
words to break my heart to turn it to stone to shake the filing cabinets inside my head
to enrage the deep dark places to find the grail to paint my senses.
i would die for words.
you give, i take.
your epiphany is mine.
it floats through my head, like a gentle dream of flying.
i would pretend to understand, but words catch me up
fling me away punching holes in the clouds through the stratosphere out past the moon and the stars into the expanding outer reaches and then
pull me in like a magnet
to the core of sensation and catch me,
rock me safe like a small child
bring me home to words.
I'd like the ability to choose freedom over security at any time, while living in a world where security's over freedom all the time.
Too many bastards in the world that I don't trust. And half the time I don't even trust myself.
freedom over security.
or security over freedom? which would you choose?
didnt morpheus say the oracle told him what he needed to know?
Hints on the identity of the Oracle and Neo.
The Oracle's outfit is green.
Agent Smith's file folder that he brings into the interrogation room is green.
Does the architect wear a green necktie?
The Interrogation room really looks like the architect's screens.
Green as we know is the colour of the Matrix. Does it mean anything here?
Oracle:
You know what that means? It's latin, means know thyself.
I'm going to let you in on a secret. Being the one is just like being in love. No one can tell you you're in love, you just know it, through and through, balls to bones.
Well, I better have a look at you. Open your mouth. Say ah....
Okay, now I'm supposed to say mmm...that's interesting... but then you say...
But what?
but you already know what I'm going to tell you
I'm not the one?
Sorry kid, you've got the gift, but it looks like you're waiting for something.
What?
Your next life maybe, who knows? That's the way it these things go.
What's funny?
Morpheus, he almost had me convinced.
I know.
Morpheus, without him, we were lost.
What do you mean, without him?
Theory.
Oracle is a computer program, she leads Neo onto that path of fate. Neo has many lives. But Oracle forsees that in this iteration Neo isn't the one. Maybe the next life, next version of The One. He has the gift... the ability to reset Zion? Waiting for what? Trinity's kiss? Seems so...
Question 1:
Is the ability to influence someone (human) the trigger for the Neo program (assuming he is a program. Because of his green file)... The whole system is dependent on one human that believes in a computer generated saviour. Without Morpheus, the computer systems would not be able to clear the people who couldn't take the green matrix.
Question 2:
The blue real world seems created in the Matrix one. Neo is saved a little too just in time.
Thought 1:
The choice Anderson made was to assume the Neo identity. Thus in Matrix 2, he had essentially no choices, living the life of a computer program.
I spoke to you in cautious tones
You answered me with no pretence
But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake
exhibitionist? i'm guessing you mean photos of yourself, not the photos that you take.
So I will share this room with you
And you can have this heart to break
haaahh.... silence is a problem everywhere. I'm been saying more in real life, and less online I guess... Been waiting to read really interesting reports from people's lives online as well, guess I'll just start with my own.
Went to arrange the photog display in school today.. Really good photographs put up in a really good display which took 9 painstaking hours :) But fun all the same... Photographers are really nice people to hang around, and I like the J2s better more than the Sea Sports J2s anyway... Love J1s from both CCAs. I guess we just get cranky the older we become.
I think photographers are naturally nice people. And I'm refering to those who are more professional, take photos out of the usual record keeping box. You've got to be a certain personality to share bits and pieces of your life with perfect strangers. Maybe exhibitionist in some respects. And there's always this fear in the back of your mind, what exactly do your photos reveal about you? When you photograph, each photo is a moment (more or less) that somehow snagged something in the back of your mind. Some innate sense of beauty and time, some things that you find really beautiful.
And I suppose the really good photographers are just people that can find the beauty in almost everything. I have days where I'd walk and walk and not find a good photograph anywhere, but at the photog exhibition, and seeing other people's works, they'd take photographs wherever and whenever I least expect them to. And each moment is crystallized in an instant into a work of pure beauty, that speaks in every language.
It's just nice to compete with others, not about some academics, nor some vague artistic abstract notion, but to compete with others to capture perfect moments in our lives. Perhaps from the viewpoint of a voyeur (aren't we all anyway), but still our own viewpoint. We compete to see how much of others we can touch with our own.
and every time I've held a rose
it seems I've only felt the thorns
If Kenneth and Junsiang still want to debate till thy kingdom come:
http://matrixessays.blogspot.com/
but this is why my eyes are closed
it's just as well for all I've seen
and so it goes, and so it goes.
my silence is my self defense.
hello? are we all dead now?
During today's GP talk by some ex-AC guy from the NAC (National Arts Council), a certain Aileen Zhang character kept going on with her questions pertaining to the issue of using television as a medium to advertise and promote/display the Arts. More specifically,
"why doesn't the NAC use television etc forms of media to display stuff to the audience?" Good question. The speaker didn't answer it too well IMO, though. All he said was
"MediaCorp goes for stuff that people want to watch so they can get high viewership ratings" and
"Arts Central is a money-bleeding division that Central would get rid of at the earliest possible chance".
Both are correct, but don't answer the question too well. The thing is, most of the local productions can't match up to foreign stuff (which MediaCorp and Channel 5 are importing by the ton), and are thus bypassed when it comes to picking for viewership ratings. And eventually Arts Central ends up buying them because they're cheap, and they get relegated to late-night slots which I am too fatigued to watch. Besides, the audience here is so unappreciative of the Arts that one is more likely to make a living from it overseas than here. Look at Serene (ahh, Yaofeng, I finally remembered her name) the model. She would have starved to death in Singapore streets.
I would like to go for an exhibition or something of the sort (not the ones made by RJ), but most of the ticket prices are way too high and the timings are all wrong, they don't fit into my schedule at all even though I'm CCA-free. So we'll wait and see, huh?
Basically all I have to say is that the Matrix is grossly overrated.
24 people? There are certainly far more than that, both in zion and in the Matrix. And remember, it is 21st century only in the Matrix. In the real world (Matrix 1) Morpheus makes a rough estimate at about 2199.
If the mainframe is reset I suppose they will have power storage supplies for backup. The machines probably aren't dumb enough to neglect that. The human minds simply disappear, and the body dies. Like what happened when Cypher disconnected almost half the crew of the
Nebuchadnezzar.
And it's not easy to cheat in the Matrix anyway. he is able to do so because, as you said, he is a superuser, THE superuser. But why this is so I have no idea. My speculation is that since the Architect and The One ahve almost the same powers, perhaps The One ends up being the next Architect when he exits by the door on the right (i.e., the Architect picks a usccessor, who becomes The One and eventually meets him and takes over). But that's a pretty sick thought.
Call it what you will. You can see it as him being a naughty client (e.g Cheat), I see him as being more of a superuser, someone who has almost complete control of the system, but has certain restrictions of his power. E.g His ability to see the buddha. Ability to move as fast as he likes, wherever he likes, Ability to see the future, as well as know where certain people are at any time. Ability to instinctively know where goes where, which door leads where. He seems to have knowledge that we haven't seen him learn about.
Found an inconsistency.
In the Matrix, Agent Smith tells Neo that this is the 21st century, the golden age of mankind. And we see clearly that the whole country is well populated. How does 24 people (including Neo) multiply and populate the world in the 21st century? They'd have to do heavy duty multiplying. Really Heavy Duty Multiplying. What happens to technology? Industry? Agriculture?
The mainframe cannot be reset. If it is, where would the power for the restart of the mainframe come from? What would happen to the billions of human minds that are now screwed up?
Perhaps dreams are an answer to that. Dreams give the Mainframe time to tie up loose ends, fix the simulation etc. But I don't think a dream can allow for the reprogramming of the entire Matrix, and I don't think that there won't be a memory of the world as they know it before.
Uh-uh, don't think so. He flies etc by playing around with the rules of the system, i.e. like cheating/hacking in a game. And the Matrix isn't a utopia. Just because 99% of the people accept it doesn't make it one. But as one of the essays in The Matrix Philosophies aptly puts it,
"When we consider a pre-Heaven existence, we seem to prefer the best real deal to the best Matrix. When thinking about Heaven, we seem to prefer the best Matrix to the best real deal."
Yes I realized the Lock Link error... Bah. Tank would be so much easier to remember.
I thought there was wayyy to much panning around during the orgy. (and too much nipples too) but I suppose it'll be revealed in Revolutions that there was a point to the whole scene. Just allow me to speculate what it'll be. And yes, I hate Keanu Reeves's ass. But I thought the tunnel effect of that scene was very cool, kinda like a womb.
I suppose 3 things were very much emphasized in that scene. 1) Music 2) Dancing Masses 3) Water/wetness. It's drawing a parallel to sex, as well as birth. Perhaps it's meant to symbolize an imminent rebirth (e.g the reset of the Mainframe). That's my speculation. Supported I guess by the people not wearing shoes, no machines in the area, a warm orange glow through the whole temple (that's probably what fetuses see in the womb), the linen clothing, etc. It all seems very enclosed, very tight, and very womb like.
The interesting thing was that in Zion, there are NO intelligent machines. All the machines just seem to be mechanisms. There are no intelligent interpretive programs, no connected home Artificial Intelligence (for e.g the sort that'll notice your presence and switch on the TV and lights like in Asimov's world) Everything requires a human operator (even the defence robot was human controlled). And of course, it'll probably also explain why ships need Link as an operator, and why they learn to see code. Because of the fear that an AI interpretive program could be hacked and lie to them.
Liked the action bits, but think they're kinda lacking in symbolism. More interested in the hacker bits though. Sad that the operator isn't the know it all he used to be. Wonder how Neo can change codes system wide and do his flying business. Think it's probably going to be a dream within a dream (matrix within a matrix) and this being Neo's dreamworld.
What IS the matrix?
It's like a MMORPG isn't it? Who runs it? What purpose does it have? Is it a bane or boon to humanity?
I think the Matrix IS utopia. Architect said that the first matrix didn't succeed because the world was too perfect. And that men never really believed in the illusion. I think the Architect didn't understand the problem fully, that's why he was never able to solve it. The Oracle was right. The Main Huge Error of the first Matrix was the element of choice. There was never the choice, never an independent decision. The choice was always made before the person even came to realize he was making that choice. And it wasn't making the choice, it was understanding it that the person was doing. Consider Neo now, from Matrix to Reloaded, he has never made a conscious decision on his own. He was forced into this entire line, and his life is proceeding perfectly. Notices how he never knows what to do next, but the right thing always happens? Same as Morpheus. It's not really existence, but the living out of a script that has long been written before he even existed. The naming of Neo as an Anomaly (by the Agents) already bears this out. The whole script so far has been planned.
And that's what the ideal human existence is isn't it? A smooth journey from birth to death? From dust to dust living in the best possible world? So what's exactly wrong with the Matrix? Why shouldn't all people live in the Matrix, since they'll all ultimately live a fufilling life? Isn't it wrong to drag people out from heaven into hell (which is the current Earth?)? Why force people to wake? Haven't we all had dreams that were so pleasant we never wanted to wake from them?
please. does anyone else think that the orgy detracted from the merits of the film? i thought it wasn't really necessary. and much too long. i am not a prude, but a much shorter segment would have sufficed to bring across the point that Zion, instead of being the technological futuristic wonderland we would imagine, is a place where everything is brought back to its most primitive and basic form. i mean, zion is set in caves. that is a direct thought-link to primitive man. their clothing, the 'temple', the torches.
is it not an irony that machines help so much to improve our lives?
otherwise. i liked it. the plot was perhaps not as well-wrought, in terms of subtlety and 'coming together' as the first. it was much more sensual as opposed to the relatively philosophical emphasis of the first. but the special effects were magnificently well done. like the speeding-up and slowing down during the fight scenes. and neo's 'superboy' would have been vaguely cheesy in any other movie, but it seemed acceptable in this one. anyone else notice that a lot of the supporting characters were token blacks and asians? and the one female hench(wo)man of the merovingian was really pathetic. the ghost twins were rather contrived, too. they weren't very major in the plot.
oh, and i think kenneth sometimes says "Lock" (ie the commander, Niobe's sig other) when he means "Link" (black operator of the Neb.)
IMHO Neo made the best choice by exiting the door on the left. The one on the right would allow him to choose the new Zionite pioneers, then what? The rest of them would be wiped out (presumably so). Absolutely pointless. The door on the left would allow him to save Trinity at the expense of the survival of humankind, but then what would the consequence truly be? The robots have to ensure that the humans live so that they can harvest the energy, and since 99% of humans would reject the mainframe system one can be assured that there will always be rebels.
Purpose is something you know you must do, and must not fail to do so. Nobody can do without one. Neo's purpose is to protect Trinity, and vice-versa. Despite all claims to the contrary. Morpheus' purpose (or so he claims, in an indirect way) is to end the war in favour of the humans.
But really, I think it's pointless to even try to win this war and completely wipe out the other party. Once all the robots are gone, then what? The sky is dark, the humans are going to live in darkness, relying only on geotherm, and dance to techno music and make out for the rest of their lives. Fun. And sooner or later they'll make super-smart robots to satisfy their whim and fancy for comfort and standard of living, and the cycle repeats itself. Doesn't anyone realise this?
The part when they were listening to Morpheus in the cave, doesn't it remind you of the primitive tribes at all? doesn't anyone realise that, technology aside, the humans are really just back to square one? Everyone believing in The One, even asking him to take care of their babies. The fact that they have to fight predators/enemies for their survival, and that they have great heroes to do this for them. Eventually when their lives get more comfortable you wouldn't be able to tell the difference between them and us. The cycle repeats.
Read the philosophy section at the Matrix website. It would help you to understand the Architect's words better. The first Matrix was too perfect - most people saw through it. And watch The Second Renaissance Pt I+II at The Animatrix website - it provides a very concrete backstory to the Matrix. Be warned though, it is alot more violent than the Matrix I&II.
Themes of choice
In the Matrix, there are many choices presented to the characters in the story. Neo's decision to save Trinity, Morpheus's decision to continue his quest, Niobe's decision to go with Morpheus over staying with the Commander, Lock's decision to be operator in the face of danger.
In each case, there is always this Yes or No quality to the choice. Either chose one or the other. But this is not necessarily the reality in life. There are an infinite amount of choices to make in any decision at any point in time. But because of the way the question is loaded, by the expectation that only one out of the two possibilities is acceptable, the decision has already been made. No not by the person who answers, but by the person who asks the question.
Consider Neo's conversation with the Architect. Must he really leave to save Trinity, or make his way to the mainframe? Did he have another choice? Does it mean that if he made his way to the mainframe, he wouldn't be able to save Trinity? Probably, and then again probably not. He stopped because he didn't know what else he had to do. Because he knew nothing of what lay behind that other door, yet he knew exactly what situation Trinity would be in, and how he could rescue her. The foreknowledge of what's going to happen can also be a deciding factor in the pursuit of choice.
And that brings us to purpose. Purpose is that foreknowledge of what's going to happen in the future. It refers to a state of reality that we believe we are going to make happen. Example, Morpheus's belief that Neo is the One. And Neo's belief that he's NOT the one. Or maybe there wasn't anyone to start with. Purpose gives people a certain belief in their abilities, and purpose gives people the strength to make decisions based on that purpose they believe in. If for example, Lock believed that he had a greater responsibility as a father to his two kids and wife, then he wouldn't have gone with the Nebuchadnezzar. The purpose in life one decides for himself determines the choices that we make. The oracle was right. That much of what Neo was going to choose has already been decided by him because of his purpose. But Neo's purpose isn't saving humanity, but more of being with the one he loves. As evidenced by the choice he made at the Architect's place.
I know I am sounding pretty contradictory now. Didn't I just say that the person who asks the loaded question get to decide which choice the answerer makes? Then later, I'm saying that the answerer has already made that choice by believing in his purpose in life?
There are two aspects to this. The belief in a person's purpose has already Predisposed him to a certain sort of answer, a certain sort of solution. For example again, Neo belief that the game wasn't over yet. That he could stop the sentinels, even though he has never shown that power before. He stopped the sentinels the same way he stopped bullets. The same solution, to the question of his existence. If he didn't stop the sentinels, or the bullets, he wouldn't exist! But that was when he had free will. And freedom of choice.
What happens when he doesn't have free choice? In the domain of the Architect, who happens to be a gatekeeper of sorts, he gives Neo a choice. But even as fair as it seems, it wasn't really a choice. Just like how Morpheus offering the pills to Neo wasn't really a choice at all. Morpheus knew he'd take the red pill. Architect knew he'd take Trinity over saving the world. If that choice had not been offered though, Neo would still be his happy hacker, and in the other instance, Neo would be saviour of the world. To offer a choice gives the Questioner a reasonable chance that the Subject would follow that choice.
Watched matrix reloaded just. Going to cool off before typing a long blog entry. Using this place as a little notepad for me.
1) Themes of Choice, and Purpose (destiny and fate)
2) What IS the matrix?
3) Why is the why (Neo was there) irrelevant?
4) What is control?
5) What is utopia then to machines, people (sleeping), zionists?
6) Who is telling the truth? Oracle or Architect? Purpose?
7) Following orders?
8) The anomaly.
9) Neo's powers, and what exactly does he feel?
10) Humanity and sex.
11) Morpheus's Death argument.
12) Cause and effect.
Discuss.
"Anyhow, although I do think the level of debate in the blogosphere can be quite impressive, I think the format will forever be limited by the contraints of punditry (which I'll use synonmously with the perhaps more exalted term "public intellectual").
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who's a grad student in my department who mentioned how increasingly disappointed she's been with journalism in general, and it stimulated some thoughts about the problems of punditry. The problem with pundits, and most bloggers are basically pundits or talking-heads (which now includes me for better or for worse), even if they're sometimes much better pundits than usual, is that they're almost obligated to comment on everything, including things they may have no special knowledge about. There's usually no harm done, assuming the pundits are reasonably intelligent--native wit and common sense can go a long way after all--and our democratic polity is premised in part on the idea that no specialized knowledge is needed for making the most important political decisions, but this sometimes does cause problems."
Just picked up this book at the school library (RJ)... cute little children's book that is titled The Tale of the Magical Seeds. Produced by the National Parks Board, and sponsored by HSBC.
I've never felt more humbled in my life.
Approached the book with the same sort of mindset I had in my youth, childlike curiosity... poring over the pictures, and the pictures and barely reading the text. The stories ARE told by the pictures, and the story never really existed anywhere else outside my own head. It seems to me, that simple words can really tell wonderful stories, why then do we use difficult polysyllabic words in almost every essay we write in order to obtain good grades?
The adult world is a strange place. People use ever more specific words not because it makes the passages more beautiful, but because the more difficult and specific words make it more beautiful for him and him alone. A children's book is a book of your own interpretation, because the words cannot dictate what you are thinking of, but are only guides to your own imagination. An adult book is but living in another person's world, in another person's imaginations.
I'd like to discuss a children's book. Because even when arguments arise, there is a very high likelihood that we are both right, that there are more agreements than disagreements, that because the text only says so much, the rest is filled in by the voices in our heads. And what can be sweeter or more beautiful than your own voice?
And pictures! Where have pictures gone? I paused for a full two minutes on the inside front cover, which said (in green), the tale of the magical seeds. And wondered what it was about, and gazed at the text (no not black) but Dark Green! And suddenly, that really set the mood, dark green words on a olive green page. What has happened to colour in our own adult books? Front cover and nothing much else.
I'd like to make my own book someday. I'd like to make it colourful, and open, and with cute little pictures. I want to make it talk to my readers, not of my own voice, but theirs, like a mirror in which they peer in, but different, because what they'd never realize that THAT particular mirror is created not by an author, but the voices in their own heads.
thanks bun! haha i got your letter today.
will reply asap :)
andi said that too, about the imagery.
i like andi's part.
ok, here's the long (ish) critique on
transeamus.
bao's is almost split prose, but enough images and concepts rather than concrete description make it poetry.
daph likes short phrases and quiet, solid pronouncements, like "Yet,".
i really liked "you/ are my north star (light my horizon, come home to harbour)". kels writes a bit like me, adjectives and mindpictures.
risse's flows. like bao's, almost prose but fuller. darker. more potent.
andi's, then, is like waves breaking on the beach. wonderful crescendo and then fades gently to a quiet end.
think i liked I, III and IV best.
Quiz quiz me!
You don't have to put in your e-mail address at the end to get your results.
Quite accurate for me I must say... though only 6% of girls would be my type... and 33% of girls hate me. (whew... that surely explained something.)
You're a hidden prince
You're a very balanced person. You have a talent for seeing beyond the details of day-to-day life. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. Despite your natural charm, you can't pretend to care for someone if you're missing a deep connection. You're ready and able to experience romance and a powerful "spark" with someone special. Your biggest challenge may be finding time to connect given your busy (and often frantic) life.
How unique is your type
Your personality profile is similar to a number of men your age. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken the test, about 33.6% (or 1 in 3 men) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.
What's dating all about to you?
Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You're good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you're usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don't want to reject nice women, but also take it very personally if you're the one rejected. You're constantly trying to find the "rules" for successful dating but often find they don't work.
You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because you're shy, you feel like you have to be someone else or "wear a mask" to go out and meet new people. You're left feeling like a distant observer, and women find it hard to truly understand you. Second, although your compassion for women is a very attractive quality, your focus on her can get in the way of getting what you want and need.
Quirks women notice
Like all men, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.
You're more cautious about getting into a commitment or saying "I love you" than most other men.
At times you can become so focused on ideas, plans for the future, or a new project that you lose track of the day to day details of life (like doing laundry, balancing your checkbook, or even eating).
You have such a positive attitude that at times your upbeat mood may irritate those who think you're "too happy" or aren't taking problems seriously.
Do women like your type?
Notice that 43% of women are generally attracted to your personality type. 8% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.
She'll be an enigma
You're looking for a woman who can be a pillar of strength and stability in your life. You'll be impressed by how responsible, strong-willed and hardworking she is. In addition to her job, she'll probably be actively involved in a social, community or environmental cause. If you're ever in a crisis, she's definitely the woman you'd want to come to your rescue. She manages to balance an objective and rational side with a very compassionate and caring side. She enjoys good conversation and will be straightforward in sharing who she is and what's important to her. She'll dress and act conservatively. But behind her serious exterior is a very loyal and faithful potential partner.
Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:
She's organized so she plans ahead for dates and is always on time
Number of women your type
Women with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 women) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
However, there's a larger group, 22% (or 1 in 5 women), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.
About two-thirds (67%) of the women have at least some of the traits you find attractive.
But you'd have a negative reaction to 33% (or 1 in 3 women), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.
Opposites sometimes attract
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. Still, sometimes differences can help create a "spark" and excitement about each other. Part of you wants to be more like her, or at least have her unique style in your life. She could be good for you in many ways:
Her sensible and pragmatic view on things can keep you "grounded" and prevent you from getting too caught up in somewhat unrealistic plans.
Her outgoing nature will help bring you out of your "shell" socially and help you have more fun at parties or outings with friends.
Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a woman who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" woman:
You understand that she really enjoys conversation and will often talk more (and louder) than you prefer.
You can appreciate why she wants to make decisions based on her own past experiences, even though it seems pretty narrow and unimaginative to you sometimes.
You can understand her career drive and crises at work, even though she sometimes drags these hassles home.
Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to her quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, her quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:
Because she stays so focused on day-to-day life, she may question some of your plans and ideas for the future because they seem impractical and unrealistic given where you are right now.
She's energized by going out with friends and doesn't understand that such events have an opposite, draining effect on you. She doesn't always respect your need for private, quiet time to "recharge."
Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the women you're looking for, but there are types of women you clearly do NOT like. Women's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:
Women who need frequent reminders that you care about them and would be upset if they thought you found another woman physically attractive.
Romantic sex
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect emotionally with your partner. Whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch, you give and receive pleasure easily.
Among men your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 10 men (9%).
Is she sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone who values the quality of sex over the quantity. Ideally, you'd like someone who is talented at keeping sex new, fun and exciting.
What's ahead for you sexually?
A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. You've kept your "wild," sexual side in check, but with the right woman you could open up the floodgates and let your sexy ideas and temptations flow. You probably feel pushed and pulled from two sides. One side wants to feel sexually free, while the other feels threatened if sex gets too intimate or emotional. You may need more time than most people to open up emotionally and sexually to a woman. Share your feelings with him and ask for her patience. A good woman won't mind pacing things, especially if it makes you more comfortable and daring in bed.
I like the daph and risse bits.
Colours Yum!
thanks, bun :)
in order of appearance,
bao, daph, me, risse, andi.
