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Love thoughts

Well I just stumbled on Joachim's blog.. and he seems to be looking for happiness. Well happiness and comfort are two different things. I hope he finds comfort in my opinions, although he might not be happy.

What brings a couple together? I used to believe love was the answer, someone told me commitment was the answer. I tried both, but it never really worked out. Love too transient, commitment too contrived. God made the world so big so that you could choose one other, and stay with her forever? Please! I believe commitment is the big lie, the great perpetuator of misery in people today. It is a lie because there is no happiness in holding two unhappy people together. People seek happiness, people seek pleasure. It is natural to want for such things.

I believe a couple who stays together does so because they're a team. A team is something that works together, strategizes together, fails and succeeds together. It doesn't matter how much more talented or how unequal the economic, sociological backgrounds may be. A successful team covers their weaknesses and maximizes their strengths. If one partner has a propensity to stray, he may find someone who may cover that weakness of his, or teach him how to overcome that weakness. That is a successful team. And that's my idea of a good couple. Click is everything.

Hmm I kinda agree with joachim's idea of a perfect partner, but I must add, it's not always about what you do for each other that makes the relationship perfect, but the space as well. A team covers all ground. A good team may not need to communicate verbally much, but they may know who will take which ball. But also, a good team doesn't stick together like glue, but spreads out to occupy the shared space. Space is also essential in a great team, and a great relationship.

I think all relationships start with a natural curiousity with that other person. Some people you may know for a year or years and that natural curiosity never arises. Sometimes that natural curiosity arises, but there is no way to find out the answers that you seek from that person. Sometimes your curiosity finds you answers why no.

I don't believe in a God, even though I use the concept and some others from the Bible and Buddhism freely. Men are born into a cage known as the body, and all the mind wants is to be set free from the limitations of our body. We dream, we fly, we swim, we dive, we have sex, we take drugs, we take medicine, we invent tools, we go for surgeries, we think and philosophize. We are born into a jail that will take us an eternity to be free. But before we become free, all our actions arise from the seeking of temporary reprieves from our jail.

You may do the thought experiment and trace back so why so where so how did we arise. How something should arise out of nothing. But nothing is only a mental concept. Find me nothing. Show me nothing. Nothing doesn't exist. Things that exist cannot arise from things that do not exist. Thus, we could not have arose from nothing. Therefore, there must always have been something. What it is, we'll find out eventually.

posted by Downhere. @ 1:31 am