Yourself?

bummer. deleted my last one too!!

bah.

anyway. ideal mate.
i suppose the odds are against finding an ideal mate. (but i'm sure its 'made in heaven'. ;) so having a set idea of what you want will only land up in disappointment and a weakly-treasured relationship. but it is kinda inevitable to have some form of expectation... as long as its not too detailed... moral 'outlines'?
true- i suppose if i found my 'ideal mate' i wouldn't let go... where'd i get another from??
you sound like a commitment phobic! too much bridget jones.
i think adaptability keeps you from getting hurt and is very useful, but mutual dependence and a sense of commitment do wonders for a relationship. adaptability and independence keep things cold. i'd rather be hurt, actually. boils down to goals, common ideals... what they want from the relationship.
if a girls not portable, as you want it, for goodness sake don't disillusion her. choose from the many portable girls already saturating the market!
i'm ok with change... not that i experience much of it, actually. i can cope with disappointments and setbacks pretty well... in that sense i am adaptable/resilient/whatever. but i don't appreciate constant changes in my relationships. rooms and computer desktops are fine-- my com desktop is basically a substitute for the colour of my room. we're not rich. but mostly i'm too lazy to change. what do you consider 'so many' crushes? for clarity.
i enjoy watching, but less nature than people. and i'm not perpetually im a 'sit-back-and-relax' mood (i'm sure youre not either), in fact, most of the time i'm quite restless. must have something to do with running. never had so many problems with keeping still before.

hm. once or twice have seen a girl and thought 'if only she was a guy'. haha. and the reason why i like that person is basically coz shes like me. i won't marry myself, conversations would tend to repeat themselves... imagine old age!

i want someone who will change my lifestyle. shift the focus. not disturb the loves and likes, but complement them and heighten them... but if i had to give up what i loved for someone (purely speculative), i would seriously consider it... and of course, the reasons. i don't know... but if a guy really made me give up what i loved, what kind of guy would he be in the first place?? an argument similar to that against premarital sex, it sounds like. but anyway. i think i would accomodate. i'm not sure... imagination tends to get very woolly and romantic. and unrealistic. i'm not all that meek to the vast majority of people.
it is hard to give up something youre attached to... many people arent prepared to. maybe me too. (grammar!! grammar!! gah) what and how much you are willing to give up does define who you are... what you demand of the other person as well. aalso priorities-- what/ who comes first? which gets the boot for the sake of the other? one ex-couple i know. classmate. they broke up coz they both wanted to concentrate on track. said in a tone of dry irony.
as for character: you're not completely you-- you've got an 'appended self'. so has he. your life is not purely yours- it affects another's life as well, just like his like affects yours. too much commitment, i suppose... quite a turnoff. but that's one kind of love. as close to agape as humans get?

from theegotripped grafitti wall: you love him not because he's beautiful, he's beautiful coz you love him.

posted by inventing @ 10:50 pm